The Bexx Project

The Rosie ProjectI have finished reading The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion and it’s definitely a page turner.  It is quite an interesting story.  The thing that really resonated with me the most was that fact that the main character is so different – this sets him apart from everyone else, but also helps him realize that he doesn’t need to change this to love and be loved.

I read a quote the other day that I really love:  “Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a friend.”  This is one of the most truthful things I have ever heard.  Ultimately, this statement prevents us from saying things like “I look fat in this,” “I’m not good enough,” “I suck at this,” “I could never do that” etc.  I absolutely love it.  Let’s stop being so darn hard on ourselves and start talking to ourselves the way that a friend would!

Reading this book and then hearing this quote made me want to apply these learnings to my life.  I have decided to hone in on some of this “Project” type action and have decided to start The Bexx Project.  Now I need to put some thinking into this to really make sure that I’m on the right track with my aims and goals, but I think I have already started some of the principles that I’m willing to put into this project.  I don’t want to treat it like a 1 month challenge or anything crazy like that.  I want to change it into a project that will ensure that I’m focused on the right things in my life longterm.  (If any of this even makes sense out loud.)

The Bexx Project will consist of a) healthy eating b) strict fitness regime c) reduced drinking d) surround myself with positive friendships and relationships e) meditation and reflection and f) pushing past fear and physical limits that are set by fear/mental blocks.

I think those are some solid things to start on.

A couple of weeks ago I started on the healthy eating aspect, and I will continue to do that, coupled with the other things listed above.  I think sometimes we all need to write down a list to make sure our focus is in the right place.  I will report back on my progress in a couple of weeks.

Let The Bexx Project commence- you only live once!

-Bexx

Running like a NorON

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Whenever I have the chance to come home in the Fall, I try to take it.  There is just something about the Fall that really makes me smile.  I love the temperature, crunch and smell of the leaves under my feet while breathing in the cool air.

I haven’t been running as much as I’d like due to this pesky Achilles, but being away from my normal gym routine, and gym buddy, with limited gym access here up in Northern Ontario, I decided to hit the pavement and do one of my favourite runs.  It’s actually one of my favourite runs to do in the winter, so I figured that Fall would also do 😉

I always get nervous being in a small town running because people slow down to see if they know who you are, and I always feel like I should run faster, to make sure that they know that I am in fact an athlete. (I don’t know why?! Maybe because I’m slightly cray ahah)

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Source: my camera

I did in fact run faster than my regular speed and I felt the fresh Fall air rushing through my lungs, and I could hear my footsteps echoing through the street.  (I was also a little out of breath, and could also hear that echoing through the streets too, but let’s downplay that part for the sake of the story haha)

I got to the centre of my little town of Cobalt (“if you don’t live there it’s your fault…” There is a song about the town that has that line in it in case you were wondering) and decided to run the stairs that are there.  I tried to take two at a time, and figured Rocky would have been proud. (Not so proud that I wasn’t wearing a hoodie… fail on my part.  Maybe next time.) When I got to the top, I must admit I was a little winded, but continued on my merry little way.

When I got to my street I ran by the houses and up the little incline toward home, and ended my run in front of my driveway, like I have done for more than 15 years now.  It always makes me smile, no matter how hard the run was/is.  It’s that familiar feeling, where times fades away and you are taken back to the very first time when you felt that feeling and sense of accomplishment.  This feeling never changes, no matter how many times you come running in.

I’m proud of being from Northern Ontario, and I miss it quite a bit.  In University I met a guy named Matty D (you may know him) from Canada Sudbury.  When he found out where I was from he said “Oh, wow a fellow NorON.”  I thought he called me a moron to be honest and was kind of taken aback.  So, as I do ever so politely, I responded with “Like, WHAT?!?” He said “NorON you know.. like a Northern Ontarionian without it being weird.” (He may not have said it exactly like that, but again for the sake of the story, work with me here.)  The term stuck with me, and for some reason still makes me smile.

I enjoyed my run tonight.  Every single moment about it.  And so I will continue this week to go on my runs here in Cobalt – running in a way that only a NorON would know…

-Bexx

 

“Gym Budddddayyyy!”

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Having a good gym buddy is important to me. Sometimes I lack the motivation to even get to bootcamp, let alone find the motivation to get my butt to the gym!

I’ve lucked out over the years.  I have met some fitness friends through classes I’ve joined, and some friends have taken up fitness over the years and joined me on my crazy fitness pursuits.

My friend Hilary used to wake up during the summer months when she didn’t even have to be up (she is a teacher with summers off) to run with me virtually, every Tuesday and Thursday morning at six am.  She would do her run by her place and I would do mine around my hood.  There were mornings I didn’t want to get up, but I knew I couldn’t disappoint her. Halfway ‘you can do this’ messages and the thought that someone else was going through the same thing as me made me try harder and feel more accountable for my workout.

I have two friends named Alex (Beinsy and Giordano to be specific) that are great workout buddies too.  Beinsy and I have been friends since Uni and over the years we’ve tried some crazy kettlebell workouts, running and cardio feats.  Giordano and I hit up bootcamp and crush some Goodlife Combat workouts together.  All in all, these ladies have helped me reach so many of my goals, that I can’t even begin to list them here 🙂

I’m not saying that you can’t ever do a workout by yourself, because those workouts are important too.  What I am saying though, is that a good gym buddy can sometimes motivate you to push beyond the limits that you set for yourself.  Sometimes these limits are set on purpose, and sometimes they are just mental blocks that prevent you from reaching your next fitness level or goals.  Either way, it’s great to have a workout buddy who will push you out of your comfort zone.

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Top 3 reasons to have a workout buddy:

1.  You will feel like getting up and doing that workout because you’re accountable, not only to yourself, but to your workout buddy.

2.  You will get satisfaction knowing that you are motivating someone else to do things that they wouldn’t necessarily do by themselves either.  Who doesn’t like that little ‘feel good’ “I’ve helped someone!” feeling?! 😉

3.  They point out the positives (at least a good one will!)  When you crush that goal, or do that extra burpee, they will point out and celebrate your accomplishments.  Sometimes it’s nice to get a pat on the back from someone who isn’t you!

Happy Training!

-Bexx

California Dreamin’, Barcelona Thievin’

I promised a few people I would post about this, but I want to keep it in a more positive light instead of a ‘woe is me’ post – so here goes 😉

danger-thieves-barcelonaObservations and reflections after my Barcelona trip where my passport and all id/credit cards etc were stolen:

1) A piece of paper does not define you, but it most definitely helps you get back to Canada.  People can steal all of your things, but they cannot take your spirit too 😉

2) Some countries are known for certain things… (re the title of this post) Sometimes these things will happen to you.  I shall visit California soon! haha

3) You really learn a lot about yourself, your friends,  and your family, in a time of (let’s call it) chaos for dramatic purposes 😉

4) When you are left to figure things out by yourself, you are more resilient than you think that you are.  GIve yourself credit for this.

5) You do not always have to be independent, it’s okay to ask for help along the way.

6) Things will not always go your way, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn from all that happens and move on a stronger person than when you started.

These things seem pretty simple, but you sometimes forget when you’re not in your ideal environment/circumstances.

I am currently on vacation in Northern Ontario – listening to crickets, reading books on my mom’s patio, canoeing across lakes, walking on paths by the lake with my cousin bestie, catching up on tv, having meals cooked for me by my awesome little bro, enjoying my 30th birthday celebrations (again) family style, playing night golf, having lunch and a Pete’s Dam walk with my bestie.  It’s only Tuesday and I’m here until Sunday.  These are the things in life that remind you that life can be simple and awesome.  I’m doing a lot of reflecting here and have an interesting post coming up!

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I’m thankful for this time to relax,  get my mind and self back on track!  I’m super excited for things to come!

-Bexx

Color Me Rad 5K – Toronto

ColorMeRadToday I ran a race, with some wonderful people, and got paint bombs thrown at me intentionally!

The laughter, the splashes of colour and the company, most definitely made this race my favourite of all time.

I haven’t run since the Sporting Life 10k, so my running was less than stellar, but I can’t remember a more recent time where I’ve had that much fun running.

Some Booty Camp and Femme Fitale ladies created a team called #WeSweatPink.  I ran with one of my besties, Hilary.  It was her first time running a race! I’m so proud of her.  She never thought she’d ever run a race, let alone one that was quite like the one we ran on Sunday. Sooooo proud!! Awh yeahhh!

Being sprayed with green paint, running through the bright pink station, and forgetting to close our mouths at the yellow station because we were laughing so hard, were most definitely highlights of our run (from my perspective at least! haha)

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I’ve provided a little before and after for you guys! hahah And of course an awesome group shot! Awh yeahhhh!

Team #WeSweatPink!
Team #WeSweatPink! Photo cred: Andrew Kachaniwsky

Below is a video of the awesome finish!!!

Video Cred: Andrew Kachaniwsky 🙂

Hilary is signed up for the Kitchener Color Me Rad and I just might sign up for another round of colour.  It’s in October so the weather will be perfect to race in! 🙂

Happy training,

-Bexx

Coach Bexx

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I’ve been rather absent these days in the blog world – busy at the normal day job and I’ve also picked up something new on Saturday mornings.

Having a second job made me afraid that I wouldn’t have time to do the things that I love to do.   It turns out that this job doesn’t feel like a job at all and really, it starts at 9 and ends at 12, so the reality of the situation is that I am done my Saturday job before some of my friends even get out of bed! haha

Coaching has done something for me that I never thought it would.  First off, I wasn’t even sure it would be something that I’m good at.  I hesitated and had to really think about whether it was something that I could do.  I want to eventually get my Personal Training cert, so for me this would be a great way to test my coaching and teaching skills, so I took it on.

Little Kickers is a great soccer program and a great place to start in terms of coaching.  You get to coach some little people who look at you like you are the best adult on the planet.  I struggle to think of myself as an adult, as I’m running around a pylon-made race track honking my voice-horn as I pretend to be a race car – but it is my job after all 😉

Little Kickers helps the kids learn their basic soccer skills, but also teaches them courage, confidence and autonomy.  It teaches them listening, teamwork and taking turns.  It is also one of the cutest things I’ve even seen in my life.

As a coach you must posses that great balance between showing them that you mean it when you ask them to do something, but also making them giggle when they put the soccer balls away, by having the hungry hippo (the ball bag) eat their arms when they help you clean up.  This can be challenging at times, but if you can get 10 of the 15 to listen, you’re on a roll!

Watching the kids build their confidence and skills over the weeks that you coach them really gives you too a sense of accomplishment.  They’re all between the ages of 1.5 and 5.

Little kickersThe youngest group are called the Little Kicks.  They’re sometimes afraid to look at you when they start classes, and they hide behind their parent’s legs.  They try to get their one leg up to kick while the other one steadies them, and they’ve never really thought about trying this before.  They had no idea they could run backwards, and they go home and practice. Teaching them to high-five and clap for each other is my favourite.

The Junior Kickers are at an interesting stage.  They want to tell you things and really share, but they hesitate a little bit sometimes.  They have some mad ‘little kicking’ (read: dribbling) skills, and they know their colours.  The smile they get when you ask them to do their favourite ‘monkey’ kick is infectious.  When the classes are over, they want to stay and talk to you all morning. *smile*

The Mighty Kickers stop your class to tell you that they hurt their toe last week, and want to show you.  They will surprise you with their penalty kicks, by doing some that would totally put yours to shame.  They giggle at your jokes that adults would shake their heads at, and they are undoubtedly on their way to being some of the future’s greatest soccer stars.  It’s a good thing Beckham is retiring, that’s all I’m saying.  They’d most def. give him a run for his money.

I’m really proud of my Little Kickers.  I’m proud of them for what they learn each week, and for what they teach me.  I have more confidence, I have more fun that I ever used to have on a Saturday morning, and they remind me that life is about having fun, and making the most of it!

You can check out East York Little Kickers (where I coach on Saturday mornings) on Facebook 🙂 Lots of classes and locations in the East end and in the High Park and Trinity Bellwoods area.  Feel free to contact me if you want more info!

-Bexx

 

Sporting Life 10K 2013

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I ran the Sporting Life 10K this morning.  It’s one of my favourite races of the year- both because it’s a huge race of 27,000 people, and because it is for a great cause.

All of the money raised goes towards supporting Camp Oochigeas, which is a camp that is run for children with cancer.  A lot of people were wearing what they run for on signs that were pinned to their backs.  It was motivational to run behind someone wearing “Run for those who cannot” or those who were running in memory of someone who lost their battle with cancer. It really puts things into perspective- you are still alive, you are running – now give it all you’ve got!

I haven’t been training, so this race intimidated me a bit. My Achilles actually doesn’t feel that bad though, so I’m pretty excited about that! Healing is awesome.

The race itself was awesome.  I used to run with music and now when I do races I find that running without it makes me more in tune with the things around me and also with how I feel.  I used to think that it would be terrible to run without the help of the music, but now I find it invigorating!

I looked up my time on-line and for some reason it’s not there.  I am curious to know how I did.  I know that I wasn’t hitting a PB, by any means, but I’d love to at least know for myself, to see how much work I have to do to start hitting some of those PBs! 😉

I’ve learned a lot about myself in the last year.  I like shorter races, and I think I want to focus more so on getting faster, than distance.  I did a half marathon, and knocked it off the bucketlist.  Part of finishing that race turned me off of running for a bit, and I wasn’t sure why at the time.  Running in my head had become more of a job than something that was fun and that I enjoyed.  For now, I’ll put the half marathons on the back-burner and focus my eyes on the prize(s): some PBs in the 5K and 10Ks 🙂

Best sign on the side-lines of the race: “Fastest Parade Ever!” *grin*  I was quite amused.

2 million dollars were raised today for Camp Ooch, and at the end of the day that’s what counts the most!

Happy running,

-Bexx