The Better Person

I’ve written similar posts to this oBetter personne before on workout buddies/support systems, but tonight made me realize just how important it is to surround yourself with great people.  Well that’s not fully the truth – this whole weekend has made me realize this.

Ultimately your friends are there to support you when you need it, and also tell you when you’re being ridiculous.  I’m pretty ridiculous sometimes, as you know, so it’s always nice when people are around you to give you that reality check.  (I hear “Oh Bexx!” a lot because of my silly antics. hah)

I think the better the people you surround yourself with, the better person you become.  iI’s like when you have a running buddy.  When they are a bit faster than you at first it seems discouraging (if you let it.)  “I’ll never get there!” *pounds table with fist*  As the weeks pass and you keep up with them, less out of breath than last week, you realize that you too are improving.  You are becoming what you surround yourself with.  (I don’t recommend running with an Olympian in this analogy….like we all have goals and it’s great to surround yourself with greats, but if you’re trying to speed up to an Olympian you may just end up feeling worse about yourself, and that’s not the point.  I’m sure you get my drift! 😉 hahah)

Tonight I got together with some old university roomies that I mentioned in my NYE list post, and we had dinner, caught up and discussed our individual lists.  Jay Skyped in because he couldn’t make it to Toronto (more crazy snowing going on.)  We never judge each other on our respective lists, accomplishments or goals, we just listen and celebrate with a Kidstreet clap (please see 17 second point of the video for an example) when someone has accomplished something amazing etc. We discuss and laugh, and overall end the evening with some awesome YouTube clips.

The one thing that stood out to me tonight that I wasn’t expecting, was that I have let far too much time pass in between when I had seen these people last.  I was on the outside of some of the inside jokes, and I’ve fallen behind in their lives unintentionally.  I’ve gotten so wrapped up in my own ‘stuff’ that I have forgotten to reach out as much as I should.  I’ve missed important proposals, dance caves, DJ Earworm mash-ups, and important life milestones, like getting dream jobs.  I am adding another goal to 2014 – to make sure that friendships like these do not get put on the back-burner for other ‘stuff.’

We talk about goals; we talk about failures; we talk about things that wouldn’t even make sense if you repeated them ten times; we laugh; we reflect on the things we can do better, and the better people that we can become.

*thankful*

*plays fav mash-up smiling*

-Bexx

Fresh off the Press – 2014: NYE List

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Every year some old roomies from university and I share our New Years resos. (You can see last year’s post here: NYE 2013 List)  I’ve decided to make mine public, and I sit here (proudly) hang-over free, at 8 am writing this while the condo is quiet and most of you have yet to rise (except for the hardcores who have already been out at 6 am running 8k and stuff haha 😉 [Bexx note: I then got distracted, cleaned, went to a movie, then did some work, and am now completing this entry.  I am like Dory in Finding Nemo- ‘Something shiny” heh.]

I didn’t really quite accomplish the goals I set out to do in 2013 fully, but I still had a great year – great friendships, meeting wonderful new people, and reuniting with some friends who I thought were lost forever.  It’s been a good year of learning about myself, the world, and how much I can push myself when I need to.  I have a feeling that 2014 is going to be the year of Bexx 😉 [Bexx note: I say this every year, and every year is equally as awesome for the record, all for different reasons of course!]

TOP 10 OUTSTANDING MOMENTS OF 2013…

  1. Realizing that not everyone is going to like you, or all the things you do, but you’re still going to do the best that you can.
  2. Being asked to be my cousin Melissa’s Maid of Honour in her July 2014 wedding.
  3. Winning a plank-off competition at bootcamp.
  4. Gaining more confidence in the public speaking world, and hitting a lot of goals I set for myself at work in terms of confidence, and measure of success.
  5. Having someone tell me that I was an inspiration to them 🙂
  6. Meeting a cab driver who changed my perspective on a major life event.  It’s interesting who you will meet, and how they will change your life/perspective in only a very short time.
  7. Getting to see beautiful Dublin, Ireland and Barcelona, Spain this summer with some wonderful people! (Two more countries on my Life KPIs list complete!)
  8. Making great new friends, maintaining the old friendships and hearing from some people I never thought I would again!
  9. Spending time with my mom and bro this summer.  As much as they tease me about being a princess, they still make me dinner and take care of me :)
  10. Going “skiing” with my cousin Melissa at Christmas.  I haven’t laughed that hard in a really long time.  Thank you for that.
TOP 5 DISAPPOINTMENTS IN 2013
  1. Not winning the lottery, again.
  2. Not hitting all the fitness goals that I wanted to (BUT became a burpee queen regardless! WIN!)
  3. Getting stranded in Barcelona sans id/passport/credit cards.  (Learning that your family and friends will always be there supporting you no matter how far away they are!)
  4. Not becoming Prime Minister of Canada.  That’s always disappointing, not just in 2014! (I’m repeating this, I still think it’s equally as important this year.. haha)
  5. Learning that the Caramilk secret is still a secret 😉
5 Goals for 2014
  1. To run a sub 58 minute 10k.  This year it will happen. 2014 you will be my b*tch!
  2. Get fit and have fun Hal Johnson and Joanne McLeod styles.  Work b*tch!
  3. Run a NWM half, with Jaymie.
  4. Post regularly on my blog! I always have issues with keeping up 🙂
  5. Actually tell people how I feel about things, and standing up for the things I believe in.  Confidence will be key for me in this.

3 Best New People of the Year-

  1. Alex Giordano (@lexxgiodano) –  Gym buddy of the year.  This girl makes me giggle while planking, and always helps me push myself when I want to give up!
  2. Lindsey Chapman (@lindseygchapman) – It’s interesting to realize you can meet new friends at the bar too, not just men! 😉  Bubbly, funny, and entertaining, this lady is one of my new favs!
  3. Sammie Kennedy (@sammiekennedy) –  Bootcamp and kick-boxing coach, she was even a good sport when we made her attend a twerking class this year, that I’m not supposed to talk about.  ❤

Richard Bronson posted today using a quote from Confucius that I really like and he also added a few of his own words:  “”A journey of a thousand miles begins with a small step.” By making one little change, you could have a profound positive effect on other people’s lives as well as your own.”

I hope you all had a great 2013, and will have an equally great, if not even better, 2014! May you accomplish all of the goals and resolutions that you set out for yourself!

Happy training,

-Bexx

Bexxified: Surviving Cold and Flu Season

poofI wish I had THE magical advice, which would rid you of any chance of getting a cold or flu this winter season.  Heck, I wish I had this magical advice so I could also give it to myself and avoid whining and crying and missing workouts because I can’t breathe.  I think you forget how much you like breathing through your nose while you sleep, until you can’t.  It makes me angry when it happens. A few times I’ve even got so frustrated I yelled “COME ON!” at my congested nostrils.  Stop laughing, I bet you have too, so stop pretending you haven’t. (Yelling at them didn’t work, but it made me feel a bit better, in spirit at least.)

There are a few things that I will unsolicitedly tell you what I do to fight off colds and flus during this lovely winter season, while simultaneously making up words…*sigh*  Hopefully some of them will help you.  Sometimes these things help, sometimes they don’t.  Regardless (placebo-ish thoughts or not) doing these things makes me feel better and makes it seem to me as though my colds/flus are shorter than most.

Bexxify Yourself for Cold and Flu season in the following ways:Arnold

1- If you start to feel sick, tired and fatigued, get ample amounts of ZZZs and drink a lot of water.  Sounds simple, but we forget.  Whether you’re a little stress-ball working extra hard during your company’s year-end, or running yourself down visiting ten million (I may exaggerate a bit) relatives during holidays, make sure that ultimately you are getting the rest that you need to keep the germs at bay.  Germs hate strong immune systems.  I wouldn’t mess with Arnold, colds and flus won’t mess with Arnold-Immune, as long as you keep strronnggg. *flex*

ColdFX2- If you start to feel a tickle at the back of your throat ,or like the front of your face is going to fall off/front of the face headache – eat ice cream.  (Okay, I may be lying about that part….) If any cold or flu-like symptoms appear, be proactive about things.  Big fan of ColdFX.  There are numerous professionals that agree or disagree with the use of this, but it makes me feel better.  I suppose one doesn’t really know if it works because it’s supposed to prevent you from getting sick at the beginning of the sickness. If I’m not sick once I’ve taken it, I assume it worked.  I am no medical professional, so who knows.  I consider this and Echinacea to be the ninjas of cold fighting.  One could argue that Oil of Oregano makes them feel better, but it tastes not as great, and burns.  I am not a particular fan, but I have taken this as well when told it would help.*Sneeze

3- Wash your hands.  Don’t be touching things on the subway then eating or touching your own face with said hands, because Joe-McSneezerson could have been touching that pole before you got on the subway,  you don’t know.  I’m not saying get all paranoid and become one of those people afraid to touch anything, but be cautious.

So these are a few of the things that I do to protect myself from dreaded cold and flu!  Despite my sarcastically sound advice on this topic, sometimes you’re still going to get sick.  You’re going to want to yell at your congestion like I do, and maybe even shake your fist at it.  If this does happen, curl up under your biggest blanket, drink lots of water, get a lot of rest, and most importantly demand someone bring you soup – at least that’s what I do!

Stay healthy,

-Bexx

*Confession: Paused half way through cold and flu tips to have a little dance party to Applause-Lady Gaga and Stompa- Serena Ryder. Then I tried to drop a beat to Rihanna and Eminem’s The Monster, but still have to learn the song a bit better first.*

The Bexx Project

The Rosie ProjectI have finished reading The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion and it’s definitely a page turner.  It is quite an interesting story.  The thing that really resonated with me the most was that fact that the main character is so different – this sets him apart from everyone else, but also helps him realize that he doesn’t need to change this to love and be loved.

I read a quote the other day that I really love:  “Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a friend.”  This is one of the most truthful things I have ever heard.  Ultimately, this statement prevents us from saying things like “I look fat in this,” “I’m not good enough,” “I suck at this,” “I could never do that” etc.  I absolutely love it.  Let’s stop being so darn hard on ourselves and start talking to ourselves the way that a friend would!

Reading this book and then hearing this quote made me want to apply these learnings to my life.  I have decided to hone in on some of this “Project” type action and have decided to start The Bexx Project.  Now I need to put some thinking into this to really make sure that I’m on the right track with my aims and goals, but I think I have already started some of the principles that I’m willing to put into this project.  I don’t want to treat it like a 1 month challenge or anything crazy like that.  I want to change it into a project that will ensure that I’m focused on the right things in my life longterm.  (If any of this even makes sense out loud.)

The Bexx Project will consist of a) healthy eating b) strict fitness regime c) reduced drinking d) surround myself with positive friendships and relationships e) meditation and reflection and f) pushing past fear and physical limits that are set by fear/mental blocks.

I think those are some solid things to start on.

A couple of weeks ago I started on the healthy eating aspect, and I will continue to do that, coupled with the other things listed above.  I think sometimes we all need to write down a list to make sure our focus is in the right place.  I will report back on my progress in a couple of weeks.

Let The Bexx Project commence- you only live once!

-Bexx

Coach Bexx

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I’ve been rather absent these days in the blog world – busy at the normal day job and I’ve also picked up something new on Saturday mornings.

Having a second job made me afraid that I wouldn’t have time to do the things that I love to do.   It turns out that this job doesn’t feel like a job at all and really, it starts at 9 and ends at 12, so the reality of the situation is that I am done my Saturday job before some of my friends even get out of bed! haha

Coaching has done something for me that I never thought it would.  First off, I wasn’t even sure it would be something that I’m good at.  I hesitated and had to really think about whether it was something that I could do.  I want to eventually get my Personal Training cert, so for me this would be a great way to test my coaching and teaching skills, so I took it on.

Little Kickers is a great soccer program and a great place to start in terms of coaching.  You get to coach some little people who look at you like you are the best adult on the planet.  I struggle to think of myself as an adult, as I’m running around a pylon-made race track honking my voice-horn as I pretend to be a race car – but it is my job after all 😉

Little Kickers helps the kids learn their basic soccer skills, but also teaches them courage, confidence and autonomy.  It teaches them listening, teamwork and taking turns.  It is also one of the cutest things I’ve even seen in my life.

As a coach you must posses that great balance between showing them that you mean it when you ask them to do something, but also making them giggle when they put the soccer balls away, by having the hungry hippo (the ball bag) eat their arms when they help you clean up.  This can be challenging at times, but if you can get 10 of the 15 to listen, you’re on a roll!

Watching the kids build their confidence and skills over the weeks that you coach them really gives you too a sense of accomplishment.  They’re all between the ages of 1.5 and 5.

Little kickersThe youngest group are called the Little Kicks.  They’re sometimes afraid to look at you when they start classes, and they hide behind their parent’s legs.  They try to get their one leg up to kick while the other one steadies them, and they’ve never really thought about trying this before.  They had no idea they could run backwards, and they go home and practice. Teaching them to high-five and clap for each other is my favourite.

The Junior Kickers are at an interesting stage.  They want to tell you things and really share, but they hesitate a little bit sometimes.  They have some mad ‘little kicking’ (read: dribbling) skills, and they know their colours.  The smile they get when you ask them to do their favourite ‘monkey’ kick is infectious.  When the classes are over, they want to stay and talk to you all morning. *smile*

The Mighty Kickers stop your class to tell you that they hurt their toe last week, and want to show you.  They will surprise you with their penalty kicks, by doing some that would totally put yours to shame.  They giggle at your jokes that adults would shake their heads at, and they are undoubtedly on their way to being some of the future’s greatest soccer stars.  It’s a good thing Beckham is retiring, that’s all I’m saying.  They’d most def. give him a run for his money.

I’m really proud of my Little Kickers.  I’m proud of them for what they learn each week, and for what they teach me.  I have more confidence, I have more fun that I ever used to have on a Saturday morning, and they remind me that life is about having fun, and making the most of it!

You can check out East York Little Kickers (where I coach on Saturday mornings) on Facebook 🙂 Lots of classes and locations in the East end and in the High Park and Trinity Bellwoods area.  Feel free to contact me if you want more info!

-Bexx

 

One thing has got to be like the other…

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My early 90s ‘fitness’ influence…

Since I ran that first lap in high school fitness became a very big focus for me.  I’m not by any means claiming to have been an athlete, but it was always important to me.  I would do crunches and crazy workouts in my bedroom before bed at night, that I had cut out from my Mom’s Woman’s World magazines, dreaming of the abs that I could have just like the girl in the demo pics.

I remember being so self-conscious about my body and never really knowing what to do about it.  My mom would tell me I look fine and encourage me to wear bathing suits that actually fit and instead I would sit on the shore with my jeans shorts on and my big t-shirt not really listening.

I wasn’t sure where my fitness journey was taking me, but I DID know it was important.  I think the key to success is really arming yourself with the right tools.

You cannot have fitness without eating right – just like you cannot appreciate how hard you work and how great you look, if you do not love yourself.

Now there has been some controversy about the recently released Dove ad.  Some are obviously pointing out the ‘yeah that’s great, but they’re still trying to sell you soap.”  I’m not going to disagree with that, but I’m going to really have to strain my brain to really convince my own self that this type of video is really transcending into soap sales.  I think Dove is trying to make a statement, a lot like the Nikes and the Under Armours of the world.  They’re trying to really resonate with their current and potential consumers.  Either way, whether successful or not, we’re definitely all aware of the campaign and talking about it, so they’ve obviously done something right.Love luck

I think the message is evident though – they’re trying to empower women to appreciate who they really are, and to question their harsh judgements of themselves.  We’ve all been guilty of it.  We all look in the mirror and complain instead of celebrating the things we’re good at, and the things we have.

I used to position things in my head as… “I’ve been doing it wrong for a while now…. ”  Instead I want to be more like my little inspiration’s “Daily Affirmation”  and celebrate the things I am good at.  I have struggled with healthy eating, but that does not mean that I am doing poorly.  I push myself at Femme Fitale every week.  I am trying to make the changes I want to see in myself, and the existence that I create for myself.  I’ve been working hard on the physical fitness aspect for a long time now, and I just need to marry this dedication to healthy eating.

Challenge accepted.

“I love my house, I love my hair…..I love my pajamas… and I can do anything good… Yeah! YEAH! Yeah!!! ”

Happy Thoughts,

-Bexx

Social Media and 100 Days of Burpees

The other day I was on #fitchat and I met @300lbsandrunnin .  He was talking about his #100DaysofBurpees Challenge, so of course I needed to butt-in and ask what this was about.  300 lbs and Running's 100 Day Burpee (You can click here if you’d like to know more or participate.  Come join in on the burpee fun!!  If you do not know what a burpee is, you can click here.  My cousin asked what a burpee is and then suggested that it was something that someone did after drinking a Slurpee too quickly.  har har. )

Admittedly I’m picking up this challenge a little late in the game.  I started on day 20, and plan on continuing through to day 100, given my poor heel can take it.

The awesomeness of social media and ‘chats’ that are run on Twitter are evident once again and have proven to be quite beneficial to me.  Never would I ever commit to doing burpees for 100 days by myself! (Not going to lie about that one hah.)

Before, I never understood why people swore by chats on social media.  I have learned over time why.  You are chatting with people from all over the world who are interested in the same things as you.  You sometimes even get a chance to brag about your own accomplishments too, and of course sign-on to support others and participate in challenges. 🙂  (I’m not saying do it because you’ll get an imaginary internet pat on the back, but I’m saying do it because you will gain friends you didn’t even know were out there.)

I have had the opportunity of ‘meeting’ quite a few of you on social media and look forward to the day we can put the face to face with our friendships.  When I try to explain this to some of my friends, I get the “These people are not your REAL friends, Rebecca.”  On the contrary I believe quite the opposite.  I’ve ‘seen’ imaginary friends before, my brother used to have one growing up named Cheermuck.  (He’s going to kill me for writing that… and no I have no idea where the name came from, and when he drew a picture of him once he looked like a tree with a face on it.)  Anyways, returning to the subject at hand, I have also met people who I have talked to on social media before, and we’ve had some of the most solid friendships.  When you read and participate in someone’s social media, you do get to know them quite well before you actually meet them face-to-face.  You often already know a lot of things about them that you both have in common, the bonds have already been set.

Social media gives people an outlet, and allows them to say what they truly feel about their passions and what is happening in their lives.  Never would I ever have predicted that I would have such a great support network of like-minded people who are constantly encouraging me to get out and do my running, my planks, my burpees.  etc.  It’s like having 1000+ personal trainers and life coaches at your fingertips, or as some may call them, friends 🙂

Happy training,

-Bexx